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Domestic violence was a part of my family's life for years. When I made the decision to leave with my children, I had to rely on the law to provide the protection we needed. Sometimes, the system does not work as fast as we want. I soon learned that going at it alone without any guidance caused significant delays. I created this blog to help others who are seeking legal means to deal with an abusive ex. By making the right moves, it is possible to get the necessary protections in place so that you can also live a happier and healthier life.


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3 Frequently Asked Questions About Palimony

by Gina Hill

Palimony is alimony for unmarried couples. Therefore, if you have been living with your partner for a while and they suddenly decide to leave you, you can demand palimony. Consult a family attorney to determine whether you have a strong case. Here are some basic facts on palimony.

1. How Does Palimony Work?

Palimony is derived from the words "pal" and "alimony." It refers to the special relationship between two individuals. The term was coined during a case involving the famous actor, Lee Marvin.

In the case, Marvin's girlfriend, Michele Triola, sued him to demand financial support. She claimed she left her own career to serve as a housewife during their relationship. In return, Marvin had promised to give her half of his earnings. While the couple was not married and the agreement was not in writing, the court ruled that the conduct of the parties created an implied contract.

2. Can a Palimony Order Be Modified or Changed?

If your ex-partner violates a palimony order, the court will find them in contempt. However, you can modify the order because your circumstances have changed.

Some of the grounds for modifying a palimony order include:

  • You no longer need to be supported
  • Your ex-partner has financial challenges
  • New situations have led to additional demands for the parties

To alter a palimony order, the paying individual has to file a request in court. Before making a ruling, the court will review the issues that have been raised to make adjustments to the order. The court may minimize or maximize the payouts, re-analyze the possession's value, or change payment dates.

3. What Factors Does the Court Consider When Awarding Palimony?

The factors that the court considers when granting palimony will vary depending on where you are. Your family attorney will advise you on what to expect based on their knowledge of the specific laws in your state.

However, the general factors that courts consider when making a ruling are as follows:

  • How long the relationship lasted
  • Oral promises regarding financial support that can be supported by hard evidence
  • Written agreements regarding financial support
  • Whether the couple has children
  • The ability of the person seeking financial assistance to support themselves
  • The difference between the partners' incomes
  • Any sacrifices made by one partner to take care of the partner's children
  • Sacrifices to pay for your ex-partner's school in order for them to get a better job